4 tips to make it easier to choose what’s right for you.

Does making decisions drive you crazy?

Making decisions or choices used to drive me crazy. I’ve quite an analytical mind and I could spend all day weighing pros and cons and worrying about whether I’d make the ‘right’ decision, sometimes to the point of ending up not wanting to choose at all!
There were other times where I’d absolutely know inside when something was right for me and even if I didn’t know ‘how’, I’d go for it, but more often than not, even if I used my intuition to choose something I’d most likely end up making excuses and back pedaling or losing my nerve. Have you been there? It’s no fun.

I knew there had to be an easier way and, thought gardener that I am, I’ve found some great ways (from EFT tapping to Law of Attraction and Access Consciousness questions) to make the process of choosing easier and more fun for me.

My top 4 tips for choosing with ease.

Choose for you.

This may sound obvious, but I bet I’m not the only one who has made choices that that make other people happy, that are acceptable, nice, generous but might just leave ‘me’ out of the equation. In a way it was easier to choose that way and I often shied away from making choices that would upset others or cause conflict. Basically, I didn’t give myself permission to choose for me. Once I started to put myself and my desires and requirements first choosing became easier (although I did have to use my tools, especially EFT tapping to deal with feeling guilty and ‘bad’ about putting myself first!) More on that next time. For now, ask yourself if you really are choosing for you?

Is it light or heavy / warm or cold?

When we have a choice to make, in essence we choose within a few seconds, just like you ‘know’ whether you like a house, a new person or a date within two seconds of laying eyes on them. Then the rational mind kicks in and can cause confusion.
One way to bypass this is to tune in. Does the choice feel light and expansive or heavy and constrictive?
What was your gut feeling about it?
There are two very similar tools I use from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks (the warmer / colder game) and Access Conscious (light and heavy). In essence, both acknowledge that what feels good / exciting / light and expansive to you is the choice that is right or ‘true’ for you. What feels colder /  unappealing / heavier or constrictive isn’t likely to serve you. This may sound very basic, yet it’s a great way of tuning in to our gut reactions to the choices available to us (rather than bypassing our inner knowing for intellectual decision making).

Will it be a contribution to you?

This question is from Access Consciousness. We can ask if a choice will be a contribution to us (and to our lives, our businesses, relationships and even the planet) in the next 5 years and in the next 10 years.

When I use this I do get an awareness and a sense of the value that the choice can be to me. I highly recommend asking this simple question for any choice, especially one that seem ‘important’ (I’ll look at that issue of it being ‘important’ later on and again in the next post, as it can really trip people up, as it used to do with me).

Choose it for 10 seconds

Ok, so choosing in 10 second increments is becoming one of my ‘go to’ tools. I won;t apologise for sharing about it repeatedly, as it’s of such benefit. Please use it repeatedly. It helps build your ‘choosing’ muscles.

How I like to do this is to become aware of my choices and then, one my one ‘wear’ them for 10 seconds. It really is like trying on clothes in a changing room. I’ll ‘wear’ the choice and see how I like it, then ‘wear’ another choice and see how I like that. It can be for 10 seconds, it can be for a day.
I’ve done this recently with some ‘important’ decisions and somehow it takes the pressure off about making the ‘right’ decision. Best of all it reminds me that I always get to choose. As Abraham-Hicks like to say “You can’t get it wrong and you never get it done”. I always have the option of choosing again … IN EVERY MOMENT. Thank goodness for that.

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To watch his week’s video where I also share about these tips click here or watch below.

Final thoughts.

Use these simple little tips for any choice or decision you have to make this week and let me know, in the comments section below, if it’s making the process of choosing easier for you.

As this is such a rich topic and I’ve so much more that I can share about it, I’ll revisit it next time. I’ll look at some of the ways we sabotage our choices (with doubt, guilt, judgement and more) and I’ll share a round of EFT tapping to help you clear any of that.

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As ever, please, please do share this post with the people you know who struggle with decision making, so they also get to have more ease with making choices.

Thank you.