How do you make the ‘impossible dream’ a possibility?

How many things would you dearly love to have in your life that seem impossible to you?

I’ll bet there are a few. Me too – there have been things that have seemed unobtainable, that have seemed beyond my capabilities or even what I’ve believed is possible for me. I’ve always been curious about that, about what holds us back from believing that ANYTHING is possible for us. I’ve always wondered why we have ‘glass ceilings’ to what we allow ourselves to earn, why we desire a certain home, lifestyle or relationship yet may have it forever out of reach. Even with more day to day desires that my clients have, such as being able to be with family without reacting, having the confidence to speak out or to enjoy their work more I’m always curious as to what makes that seem impossible for them.

Lately, I’ve been asking questions (not looking for cognitive answers, more to allow awareness to surface) about what I’ve decided is impossible or inconceivable to be, do or have in my own life. This relates to my work, to the amount of joy I allow into my life, to everything. Through this curiosity, my inner work and some wonderful clearings from my coach & friend Rachael O’Brien I find new possibilities opening up for me and things that seemed impossible suddenly don’t anymore.

Here are my top take aways from my own experiences recently.

What story are you buying into?

We all have stories that we’ve bought into, often since childhood about why the world is how it is and why things aren’t possible for us. As I explain in this week’s video, when I was studying EFT we called this the ‘writing on the wall’ – those sometimes spoken and often unspoken rules and judgements that we grew up with e.g. ‘rich people are greedy’, ‘it’s dangerous to speak out’ or even ‘you’re too stupid to do that’. We then buy into those stories, sometimes consciously, often unconsciously and they form part of our worldview. Then, later when our dreams or aspirations start to challenge those stories we can falter and self sabotage so we don’t rock the boat.

So, get curious about what stories you might be buying into, what beliefs from your family or society you’ve taken on that hold you back from reaching your potential. Even if it isn’t a conscious awareness, getting curious, with an intention to change and release those patterns and beliefs starts the process of dissolving them.

Who do you surround yourself with?

When you’re looking to change those patterns and beliefs and to stop buying those old stories (that say you’re not good enough, that you couldn’t reach that dream etc) it’s vital to be around people who will believe in you and who WON’T buy into those stories either. I have created a wonderful support system of people worldwide for that kind of mutual support, many through online groups. It helps me tremendously and I highly recommend you do the same.

I’d suggest going one step further and having a personal ally, such as a coach, who can help you challenge those beliefs that keep you stuck and can give you the tools to change the writing on your wall. I know that when I work with an ally I get a much deeper level of change than when I ‘go it alone’. When I coach and support my clients (through mindset coaching, EFT tapping and energy work) their old stories and the other blocks fall away so they can reach their dreams with ease.

So, go find some allies and also, be your own ally and cheerleader. Changing our beliefs is an ongoing journey, so make sure you’re in good company.

It can take time.

It’s taken me a while to accept this. With all the awesome tools I have at my disposal, I’d love for every issue to clear with a click (or a tap) of my fingers. Sometimes that can be the case. Sometimes it can take a bit longer. Why? We can have layers of stories and beliefs all playing out at once. Those crazy beliefs and emotions can get stuck in our bodies and energy system and often (and I raise my own hand up here) we can judge ourselves if we start doing inner work and things don’t change as if by magic.

People often say it’s like peeling back the layers of an onion. There can be different layers to clear. I like the analogy of the tabletop. The issue is the top of the table, the stories and beliefs are the legs. If you remove one leg, the table can still stand, so you could think that you didn’t make any change. Yet, remove a second leg and the tabletop gets unstable and will probably fall.

I still have issues in my life that are ‘sticky’ – they take a while and maybe a couple of approaches before I start to see changes. The best thing I have learned recently is not to judge that, not to judge myself for not clearing them in an instant, for not clicking my fingers and having it change there and then. It’s a lot more caring to get curious about what else may be required to change that, what else may be required to allow what seemed once impossible to become possible.

Video

For some extra insights you can watch this week’s video by clicking here or on the image below.

Over to you

Let me know in the comments section below what your ‘impossible’ dream is, or how you turned an impossible dream into your reality.

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Thank you.